Nourishing a Healthy No


The pressure to say yes.

As women in our culture I believe we have been led to say yes. We say yes when we feel we should. We say yes when inside we’re smoldering resentment. We say yes when we are really screaming inside, “No!”

As Christians, we are led into the doing mode. Nowhere in the Bible does it say for us to be a better Christian or a better person we need to be doing all the things we think we should be doing. Nowhere in the Bible does it say our works gets us in a better place with God.

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV)

Our society does. Our mom’s did. We were told without words-the meaning blared out to us as through a megaphone.

You need to do more.

You need to give more.

You can always add one more thing.

You have the energy to be married, work, have children and then take care of the household.

You need to be creative and make things from scratch.

You need to be joyful while you are doing all these things.

You need to be happy.

You need to put your family first.

You need to put yourself first.

You need. You need.

Live a life with purpose.

May we be removed from the obligation of the Martha mode. We need the Martha’s where the work needs to get done. We need the Martha’s to organize and accomplish the task that is required.

We don’t have to always be the Martha.

Through my journey in The Significant Woman, I have been more purposeful.

Finding my mission statement, creating attainable goals, have given me permission to say no.

My past is to say yes. Out of guilt. Out of necessity. Out of need.

Freedom to say no.

Recently I was involved in a women’s leadership meeting and we were planning a menu and times to meet up to shop and cook. I purposefully allowed myself to sit back and let the others commit, and not knowing why, I let them.

I knew I had to say no. I felt no pressure from my lovely friends. It was all on me.

Two days before the informational meeting my husband flew home and I found myself in a whirlwind of activity. All my time was taken with my husband and appointments for building our house. Imagine if I had committed to cooking for this event in the middle of trying to make major decisions regarding our future home. I never could have done it. My energy wouldn’t have allowed it.

I am thankful I said no. I believe my no was in obedience.

“A life of significance: a life connected to God and His unique Personal Mission for your life. God desires that every Christian woman choose to live this kind of life because it honors and glorifies Him. Making this choice enables each woman to invest her life rather than spend it.

Living a life of significance is a journey—the ongoing way you grow in your relationship with God and live His unique mission for your life. As you walk with Him by faith in the power of the Holy Spirit your journey becomes a life of meaning and purpose as expressed in reaching out to others.” (CRU, The Significant Woman)

What do you need to say no to?

Saying no doesn’t need to lead us to a place of guilt.

Saying no can be a place of freedom.

Do you need to say no to something? Your no could be an obedient act to God.

31 Days of Living a Nourishing Healthy Life

2 Responses to Nourishing a Healthy No

  1. linda October 12, 2015 at 5:45 pm #

    Timely for me as an older mom who had bowed out of some of these demands and should do’s but still deal with kid stuff from adult and teen ones.

    • Diane Samson October 13, 2015 at 11:45 am #

      I don’t think it mattesr what our age. There are constant demands on us to be more of a yes person, even to the detriment of our selves. Blessings to you Linda in your journey with your loved ones! 🙂

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